If you are a woman who dates women — or a queer / non-binary person who wants a space that is not a mainstream app bolt-on — HER is usually the first name people mention after Grindr (which targets a different audience).
HER blends matching with community feeds and events in major cities. This review uses our May 2026 data files and safety hub entries; see methodology for how we evaluate apps.
Quick Verdict
| If you are... | Our recommendation |
|---|---|
| Lesbian / bi / queer woman in a major city | HER is a top pick |
| Non-binary and want LGBTQ+-first design | HER or OkCupid |
| Gay / bi men | Grindr or Feeld |
| Straight man seeking women | Bumble / Hinge — not HER's core audience |
Overall score: 4.2 / 5 — Best-in-class positioning for wlw; pool size varies by city.
Free vs Premium
| Feature | Free | Premium |
|---|---|---|
| Profile & browsing | ✓ | ✓ |
| Messaging (mutual matches) | ✓ (limits apply) | ✓ |
| Daily likes | Limited | Unlimited |
| See who liked you | ✗ | ✓ |
| Advanced filters | Basic | Full |
Current App Store visible SKU labels show HER Gold at $14.99-$99.99 and HER Platinum at $44.99-$71.99; confirm the duration in your app store.
Safety & Community
HER publishes a Safety Center with community guidelines, reporting tools, and event moderation in supported cities. As with any dating app: meet in public, tell a friend, and use in-app block/report if something feels off.
Our safety hub row for HER links official resources alongside other LGBTQ+ apps.
HER vs Bumble vs OkCupid
- vs Bumble: Bumble is general-market with women-first messaging. HER is LGBTQ+-native with community features.
- vs OkCupid: OkCupid wins on identity options and mixed-orientation breadth. HER wins when you want wlw-focused culture, not just filters.
See HER vs Bumble for a full comparison.
Bottom Line
HER is the default recommendation for queer women and non-binary daters who want identity-first design. In smaller towns the pool can feel quiet — pair with OkCupid or Feeld if you need backup volume.
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